Coming out on top?
Or helping someone?
Ultimately, it all comes back to our values which are instilled in us from such a young age. Values are difficult to change as they are ingrained in us. We are told many things when we are young. This can either encourage us to be successful and have the drive to do well, or it can have the opposite effect, and prevent us from doing well. Some of us may have been brought up in families where we are told to go to school, get a good job, and simply just do well and fit into society. But, few of us are encouraged that we can do amazing things along the way.
When we are brought up in this sort of environment, our dreams are hijacked. We are encouraged to do things that may not be related to our true values. As a result we go along and do what we think we are supposed to do but we get to a stage where there is a misalignment. We may be successful at our job, but we haven’t followed our heart or our true desires.
Our desires and dreams are usually linked to what we are good at. These desires are put on our hearts so that we can do them well and we can make a difference in society. To be truly successful we need to do what we are aligned with, and also to make a difference. It is human nature to want to be rewarded for what we are doing. Now this may not necessarily be monetary but it can also be associated with gratitude, acknowledgment or encouragement.
But we don’t necessarily have to change our values to be successful (and we shouldn’t). We can actually use them to our advantage. By using our values, desires and dreams and lining up our ultimate goal we can achieve great things.
If you value your family, and spending quality time with your family. You might be able to align Fitness or Paleo goals with the fact that improving your health and wellbeing will ultimately improve the time spent with family, kids and making a difference in their lives. No one wants to have trouble spending time with their family due to poor health, whether related to sickness or fitness.
Setting goals, and aligning them to your values can make you more successful at actually achieving these goals. Have a think about what is truly important to you. Think about what makes you tick. Your dreams and desires will be linked to what you enjoy doing. Our desires are put on our heart for a reason, and we were created to make a difference.
It may take some brain storming and a lot of reflection to identify what is truly important to you. This is usually due to the fact that most of us are told what we should do when we are at school, we are stifled into doing what is ‘right’ and we sometimes drift away from our creative side. Being creative allows us to think differently, instead of going along with the crowd.
For some of us it can take months, or even years to identify our true meaning in life and “what we want to do when we grow up”. But the journey at identifying, and focusing on our goals is magical. We become more in tune with what we want and what we don’t want. We learn to listen to our intuition, and can make clearer decisions by knowing where we are going.
Take up the challenge!! Take some time out and just think about what is important to you. Think about what your perfect life would be and what it would mean to you. Write it down. Then align some real goals. This will be the most rewarding and challenging thing you will do. But it is worth it.